Beyond "Hey": 7 First Messages That Guarantee a Reply
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WHY "HEY" FAILS EVERY TIME
When you send "Hey" or "How are you?", you are putting the burden of conversation on the other person. You are effectively saying, "I am interested, but I want you to do the work."
THE OBSERVATIONAL OPENER
Look at their photos. Is there a dog? A landmark? A specific food? "That golden retriever looks like a very good boy. What is his name?" This works because people love talking about their pets and passions.
THE "THIS OR THAT" GAME
"Settling a debate: Tacos or Sushi for a first date?" Low pressure, easy to answer, and immediately sets up a potential date idea.
THE COMPLIMENT PIVOT
"You have an amazing style. Is that jacket vintage?" Compliments are nice, but questions require answers. Always end a compliment with a question.
THE TRAVEL QUESTION
"I see you went to Italy in your third photo! I am planning a trip there. What was the best pizza you ate?" Travel evokes positive memories and excitement.
FINAL TIP: TIMING MATTERS
Data shows that messages sent between 7 PM and 9 PM get the fastest replies. Send your message, put your phone down, and live your life. Confidence is attractive.